21 years and I realised, what i am lacking in my life, I was lacking me, I was crushed upon their feets, it was that i lived through all the judgments i faced in life and tried to fit in the box they made for me. Being from a lower middle class, who were of not that of intellectual class i grew in a harsh environment, i saw myself through the narrow minded eyes of them.
Now being a fully grown adult I realise, where it went wrong and I am capable of re figuring out everything and now it feels like I am so accomplished and I am proud of my hard works and where life has taken me.
Now coming to the concept of marriage. No way I am getting married at anything less than 27 or 28. I am not them and I dont view the world same as them. As a sane person I'd say, untill you explore more about you will never know how much graceful and lively you can be..
Marriage is the not the ultimate goal in life, I see many people of conservative indian culture say otherwise, especially those among lower and middle class, people view getting a fine marriage alliance is the greatest achievement ?
But what you're a Mrs, but who are you even? Have you even accomplished anything on your own that you're proud of? What hard work have you made through?
Anything?
I dont think any self made accomplished women would marry any less that 25 because she got priorities in her life.
And see this isn't 1900s when woman's actual point was to be a mother and a wife, this is 21 century and women are equally privileged and knowledgeable. So we dont have to fit in the stereotype to be labelled as lady type.
Yes well I believe, the point in life is finding yourself..
You grew up surrounded by people, imbibe their qualities and you were brainwashed to believe that, being the lady type, it is the only ultimate truth in life, as a kid all I heard was 'a girl has to fair to be beautiful and stuff and study well to find a better husband?
Seriously how pathetic right, now as a grown up adult, I'd never agree with what I heard back then.' Now thankful to god, life offered me enough opportunities so that now I am in a well reputed career and Met with more intellectual people and it made me realise that appearance is the last thing that defines who I am and although good appearance have undue advantage in society but personality and reputation is what that outshines 😇
As i grew up and know more about life, i understand, being a bride or motherhood isn't the biggest achievement in her life,
Her achievement is in terms of building her own name, her career, her own self and acceptance of her own self.
I live only once, I don't want to flunk it up I want to live upto my terms and dreams.
I know currently or PREVIOUSLY how it was, but it doesn't define anything, I got this, I am currently so happy with everything.
You have to leave the familiarity to know YOU, I want to move out of my home leaving behind my family and comforts of home after my course , because if I am gonna spend all my here with this kind of narrow minded lifestyle and without taking any risk or adventure to talk about what I am even doing to me? Am i even doing anything adventurous or anything more than my routined life.
Is there something to be remembered?
Life is more than routines. I think the fun in life is being wild, adventurous, go to the forest, walk, talk, meet new people, smiles, jokes, travel, pets, your own space, and discovering more about you. Family comes, it's a part of you... but not that you have to be a little minion or copy cat of your family. You are free to choose your path.
And date a few because untill you meet a pack of few how will you know this is even 'the one'?
I mean why do you have to settle for arguments and disagreements, if you have the privilege to find a better partner..
Life partner is someone you are gonna spend entire life with, after all I dont mean it fully though, if things dont appear fair at any moment we are free to move on and choose a better person who suits you. Well I dont support cheating and sudden break up when they find someone better, that's a different mentality, i only meant it when it when they both cant stand each other, it's better to find a better way than hanging on to each other as burden, and being a new generation and with a wider vision I think it's better way to look at things than settling for crappy life.
you know what youth these 20s you will never get back, you are spreading you wings, you meet new people and some will touch will heart, and a few you will get closer, you will feel more things in common and a feeling to get together, eventually you date him, you sleep together, eat together, cuddle, cook together, fight together, sometimes you learn more about him you end up learning that you have more disparities in opinions than how you thought when you first met him, you can't stand the way he disrespects you? Or how the way he makes home unclean? Or how the way he talks about other girls? Or about how he likes and praises stupid love stories which you find cheesy and trashy? Or he have dumb opinion about religion and thing? Or all his knowledge are surface level and dont have any deeper knowledge or dont pay attention you anything you say?.
So you really want such kind of person to be your partner no? Right.
And that's how dating works, you are free to move on anytime, unlike marriage, here there isn't much commitments, although sometimes it hurt but maybe it's better to end it which is incompatible for you.. and we have to move on a find a better one. dating is the way how you find the compatible partner. It's a match making.
And not like love at first sight, dont know about it, but I don't believe in it, within a first meet you cant know anything about a person at all.
I dont mean that wearing short dress or dating a lot of boys is the exact thing I am searching for, it's how a narrow minded people would say, I am searching for me and things I'd love to do. And dress part is because I'd like to wear thing that makes me feel good or sexier (when I am in mood ) though and Jean's and tank tops are cute so I'd prefer that, and nothing notorious about it.
Well who are they? Masses, asses who are they to tell me who I should be or what I shouldn't and should do. I know moral policies but I dont want to fit in the stereotype of conservativity.
Well just be sure of your choice, dont settle for anything less anagha 😇☺☺☺
So yea what I was saying was that
Choice is yours, be happy and face life with a smile, the ultimate truth in life is we always have a choice, but sometimes we let the situation control us instead of controlling them because it's easier to put the blame on everything around. After all yea definitely mass can be ignorant, but you know you will never let mass dictate who you are...
Be young and be wild😇😊🤡☺
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